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Modern Parenting’s Contemplative Roots

250_New-Fiddlehouse-SigI was reading Richard Rohr’s Saturday meditation from the Center for Action and Contemplation today and was impressed by how well it complimented what we know to be the best of “current” parenting. Should I be surprised by this? I suppose not since over and over again I’ve found the parallel between the ancient and timeless contemplative wisdom and what we think of as the “new best practices.”

In his reflection “Moralism Instead of Mysticism” Fr. Richard points out that moralism tells us we need to change and “do things right” in order to be loved and accepted. Many of us were parented this way and heard this message in church, school etc. It’s easy for our own children to get this message from us (even if we don’t mean to send it) and the world in which we live, work, and learn.

The contemplative perspective is inspired by the mystics who tell us that “what empowers change, what makes you desirous of change, is the experience of love and acceptance itself. This is the engine of change.” Fr. Richard continues, “when you fall into God’s mercy, when you fall into God’s great generosity, you find, seemingly from nowhere, this capacity to change.”

It’s not much of a stretch to paraphrase the message above and hear the voice of what I’ve come to call contemplative parenting.  When we immerse our children in generous acceptance, love, and encouragement, they gain capacity to change, grow, thrive and overcome all of the challenges they face. To use the language of the Nurtured Heart Approach, we nurture their greatness. Present Moment Parenting would say we are downloading positives into their heart. The foundation of the parent coaching I offer, both of these approaches are INCREDIBLY effective with challenging behaviors, including ADHD.

Even parenting approaches that emphasize natural and logical consequences, boundaries, and an authoritative stance are most effective with a foundation of unconditional love, acceptance, and positive regard.

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Posted by on January 15, 2013 in Present Moment Parenting


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Not the Supernanny

At Fiddlehouse, we teach and use Present Moment Parenting. This approach was developed by Tina Feigal of Parenting Mojo and the Center for the Challenging Child. I am a certified Parent Coach and was trained by Tina in Present Moment Parenting at Adler Graduate School, Richfield, MN. “What’s a parent coach? Is that like the Supernanny?”

The answer is a resounding no. I apply the best of child development, education, and psychology when I provide coaching in Present Moment Parenting. I am not trying to create entertainment or get ratings. I am helping you be the best parent to your child.

Tina wrote a great article that is published on-line that talks about this. Click here to see Why I’m Not Like the Supernanny.


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